Considering Judgment

 When people meditate for a long time, do they start to relate to judgments differently, whether it's their own or someone else's? The reason I ask this question is that I wonder if judgments start to lose their sense of pervasiveness when a person learns to just sit in the present moment, and whether they can even turn more toward these judgments as hints and suggestions rather than as judgments. What would be the main differences between these things?
   I think that for me, judgments hinge around a narrow sense of the self as always needing to be in charge of a situation. If my feeling of wishing for control is too tight, then everything around me will be experienced as a slight or a challenge to that sense of control. You can even try this: imagine something you really want to have or enjoy doing the most, and then try to interact with people around you while simultaneously harboring that thought. Often you will likely feel irritated and annoyed because you cannot fix on that one thought which you most like or appreciate. On the other hand, if you are having a conversation with someone to avoid some task or chore you don't like, that conversation will seem so heavenly! Perhaps this is because we are using self-reference to view the situation. But if we were to "turn down the volume" of that thought and want it a bit less, then the moment becomes full of more possibilities, because it is no longer an obstacle to where one wishes to be. In this way, how one assesses the situation plays a big part in whether or not one is able to fully commit to being present to the situation itself.