No Point of Reference

During meditation tonight, a sense came up to me that I could not really locate where my point of reference is. It's the sense that all things are equal, and there is no central point where they all converge. But whenever the sense  of self returned, the question came to mind: who is returning? And from where? As long as there is no clear reference point, all the sensations and thoughts seem to have an equal status. Even the body has no 'central' reference, so it begins to feel soft and light. Could the pain that I sometimes feel perhaps be coming from this excessive investment in a central 'self' that is in the body?  I leave this question for anyone to ponder it
    Curiously, when I am doing the instructions on how to relax prior to meditation, I seem to rely heavily on a point of reference, particularly the breath and the body. I will say things like 'come back to your breathing', or 'use your body sensation to anchor the mind.' All of these frames of reference are somehow false, and only provisional. For example, is the mind ever 'away' from the body? Is it truly necessary to 'anchor' the mind anywhere when the mind has no location? These kinds of questions lead me to wonder how else to describe meditation except through some language references  that often contain an implied self. In particular, many mindfulness practices are focused on using the body as a 'tool' for being present and dealing with pain. But in a subtle sense, this instruction ends up centralizing things to the body. It is no wonder that, at times, the feelings of pain intensify when I give myself this kind of instruction. Whatever my mind instructs becomes my point of reference. And there is always that hidden danger that it becomes an attachment, or that people locate awareness entirely within the body--as though it were dependent on the state of the body.
     When I stop attaching to what's happening in my body and transform or channel that attachment into asking "who is reciting Buddha's name?", I stop getting annoyed when the body is not feeling how I want it to feel. And I stop believing that mind begins and ends in the body. But it seems to take this kind of strong questioning to break through my strong sense of 'I', even just for a moment. And after this practice, I am humbled to know that the illusion of being 'in this body' alone is so powerful. In fact, what meditation practice shows is that even the sense of one's body changes from moment to moment, based on state of mind, orientation and attitude. In that way, I stop thinking that the body determines who I am.