Cloud Turbulence

I was reading an article today by Ran Kuttner, called "Cultivating Dialogue: From Fragmentation to Relationality in Conflict Interaction". I started to reflect on the following: the idea that conflict usually seems to involve two people bargaining separately for things they want. However, according to the view of relationality, people's identity does not come as a separate element but is continually shifting back and forth in a relational space with others. Therefore, conflict is not about two separate things clashing together, but about lack of resonance in the moment, a kind of 'cloud turbulence' that doesn't originate in one being alone. The physicist David Bohm refers to it as 'co-creation'. When people believe that their thinking only comes from their own head-space (or the muscle between their ears), they might start to mistakenly distinguish certain kinds of thinking as 'myself' and other thoughts as belonging to someone else.
   I wonder what it would be like if people believed that conflict never starts or ends with 'separate beings' at all, but is just like a plane going through a turbulent cloud. Really. I mean, it would make a difference, insofar as people wouldn't concern themselves so much with 'who started what' or 'what belongs to whom'. Rather, they might together start to look at the turbulence and see how they can fly through it together. They might not even see the turbulence as all that bad to begin with, especially if they are of the view that clouds are a natural part of the scenery and therefore do not need to be liquidated (literally) or rendered more innocuous. Would this model of negotiation not be more interesting and fun than the traditional model of 'bargaining between separate selves'?
   It seems that the best way to cultivate this relational space, as Kuttner suggests, is through reflection and mindfulness meditation. In meditation, people can realize that nothing belongs to one thing or the other unless the world is divided in this way. In fact, things are parts of a whole already and it's actually when we don't separate things that conflict is less catastrophic.

Kuttner, Ran. (2012). Cultivating Dialogue: From Fragmentation to Relationality in Conflict Interaction. Negotiation Journal, July 2012.