Sunday, March 27, 2016

impermanence of position

I was reflecting today on how attached I have felt toward being a volunteer with the Buddhist organization.  I often worry that if I make a mistake or seem incompetent as a meditation timekeeper that this will mean and end to my connection with the organization. But later, after the study group, I began to think:  my connection to Buddhist teaching is not limited to any particular role I take within the organization. In fact, I began to even come to terms with the fact that I can fail as much as I want, but there is no "I" that lives or dies as a result. The only reason I experience suffering is that I am under the mistaken belief that who I am consists in the roles I play in relation to others.
    None of this should seem a surprise to me, yet it's something I continually need to remind myself. The reason for the suffering is not 'lost dignity' or 'being humiliated', but rather a strong desire for these roles. Sometimes, a person needs to experience isolation from roles altogether, to realize that they are not dependent on any role or sense of dignity. But the journey is so difficult, because so much emphasis is placed on how much power a person has and needs to survive in the world. I often need to remind myself that even being 'low' in status or recognition has a spiritual value or a meaning. In a sense, it is life's way of telling us that we can survive without status and still have things to contribute to others.
    I am not at all suggesting that people should or can live isolated lives. This might be the way of nihilism---the belief that people are all isolated units. What I do believe is that people need some modicum of faith in themselves to realize that their value is not limited to one or two roles. If a person clings to those positions and insists on keeping them for dear life, they will feel such great loss when those roles inevitably are taken away from them. The desire comes from a very limited or narrow view of what people are capable of doing or becoming in the world. I think this also sometimes comes from the mistaken view that all the people I know today are the only people I will ever know or be capable of knowing. This is also a very limited view. Who is to say that the only people I can benefit or contribute to are in this current moment? Again by limiting my view only to what is happening in the present, I may be blinding myself to the future possibilities of benefiting other sentient beings. Sometimes the loss of one role can allow other sentient beings to benefit from one's experiences, now that they have been freed from that position.
     The point I am making is that the impermanence  of one's social life does not necessarily entail bracing oneself for a life of isolation. Instead, the nature of impermanence can get people away from restrictive views of inscribed roles and toward are limitless array of possibilities.

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